REMEMBERING…
The other day I was looking over a pattern for a new embroidery project that I planned to do. I started to reach for the phone to call my mother, my cohort, the dynamic duo of embroidery when I remembered that she was no longer with us.
I was sad, yes, because I could no longer share this interest with her.
But then something shifted.
I realized that the impulse to call her was not just sadness – it was love. It was memory. It was connection that death cannot erase.
Making memories while you can.
If your loved one is still here, make the memories now. Do not wait for the perfect moment. Do not wait until you have more time. Do not wait until things are easier.
- Take the picture
- Make the phone call
- Ask the question
- Share the hobby
- Laugh together
- Cry together
- Just be together
These moments become the memories that sustain you later.
Remembering after they are gone.
After a loved one passes, the memories can feel painful at first. You might avoid them because they hurt. But eventually, those same memories become treasures.
The embroidery patterns that remind me of my mother now make me smile. The impulse to call her now feels like a gift – proof that our bond was real, that she is still with me in some way.
Do not be afraid of memories. Let them come. Let them wash over you. Let them remind you of the love that still exists.
You can remember and make new memories too.
I cannot make new embroidery memories with my mother. But I can honor her by continuing to create. I can think of her as I stitch. I can pass on what she taught me.
What memories are you making today? What memories are you holding close?